In the past, I always struggled with feeling small. I knew I needed to play big to achieve my dreams but I was stuck in a rut of playing small. I noticed one thing that kept me playing small was playing the comparison game. I know so many of us struggle with comparing ourselves to others, especially with social media because it has taken over our lives.

I finally decided one day that I was going to work on not thinking I was less than. I would be okay with the lady I met at a networking group that was very beautiful and looked very successful, or my neighbor that seemed to have it all. I chose to be happy and okay with myself, but no it didn’t happen overnight.

Do you struggle with comparing yourself to others? It’s really draining and doesn’t feel good does it?

I want to share a few tools I use to climb from the quick sand when you feel like you are sinking fast:

  • Keep an ‘Atta-girl’ file. I keep mine in a manila folder but you can also keep a running list on your phone. Make it easy for you to keep track, so you can make use of this tool.  Whenever someone pays you a compliment stick it in your file. When you find yourself comparing or being hard on yourself pull out your file and read through these nice things being said about you. This really helps!
  • Look up names of people that play big and surround yourself with them. Whether it be podcasts, books (autobiographies), blogs or personal development seminars, these types of things will amp you up into feeling better and not play small.
  • I like to be involved in service based projects and giving back. This always helps with our feelings of playing small.



Kris Rudarmel

I am an (award winning) womanpreneur, artist, speaker, empowerment leader and knowledge seeker. I share my stories of adversity with fear, in business and in life, with vulnerability and being awakened and how I boldly built a company to new levels and took risks to soar. Along my journey, my belief in myself, tenacity, courage, confidence, hope and faith grew exponentially. You will hear my message of enlightenment and my life changing principles for fearless living that will assist and inspire others to jump to their greatest potential. I hope to inspire my community to find their strength to live courageously, ignite their flame and leap joyously. I believe we should continually upgrade our dreams to preserve our road to happiness. You need to believe it can be done- this will set your mind in motion to find a way to do it. I (along with my husband) bootstrapped our way to building a local, woman owned enterprise in Salt Lake City; Anchor Water Damage & Restoration. While building Anchor (2008-2016) I have been recognized in the community 8 times with the following: • Nationally Recognized 2016 Best of the Best -Top 3 ‘Women in Restoration’ 2016 Remediation and Restoration Magazine (October issue) • 2016 Enterprise 7 Award: Woman Business Owner • 2015 and 2014 Best of State • 2013 30 Women to Watch- Utah Business Magazine • 2013 Outstanding Entrepreneur • 2011 Woman Business Owner of the Year – NAWBO SLC • 2009 Small Business of the Year • 2013 Kris graduated from the Goldman Sachs 10,000 Small Business program • 2012 GE Capital Banking on Women program • 2011 Won the SCORE/Sam’s giveaway (2 companies per state were awarded this) I love being involved in the community. I help out by serving on committees and volunteering. I serve on the Granite Foundation Board and have held positions at Chamber West, NAWBO along with other organizations. I was a mentor (2016) for the Women of Worth foundation. I reside in South Jordan, Utah with my husband of 33 years and my 2 children.


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